October 16, 2015

10 years


On June 3 Nick and I celebrated 10 years of marriage. 10 YEARS. And what a crazy, hard, exciting, exhausting, thrilling decade it has been.

Right before our 10th anniversary I was getting my hair done. The girl doing my hair had been married for just over a year and when I told her I was approaching the big 1-0 mark she asked me the loaded question of, "So what's it like being married for 10 years?" Uhhhhhhhhhhhhh.... **mind explodes**

How do you answer that? I remember trying to dig deep for something profound, but all I came up with was "It's really awesome and really hard."

Because it is.

There's a John Mayer song called "Not Myself" The words in it resonate so much with me when it comes to marriage and what it means to "work at it."  

Suppose I said
I am on my best behavior
And there are times
I lose my worried mind

Would you want me when I'm not myself?
Wait it out while I am someone else

And I, in time, will come around
I always do for you

Suppose I said
You're my saving grace

Because really, that's marriage in a nutshell. Sometimes we're on our best behavior. Life is good and comfortable and its just easy to be in love and loved. But there are also moments when we "lose our worried mind" because of work stress, school stress, family stress, challenging kid behaviors, sleep deprivation, unmet expectations, unrealistic expectations, sleep deprivation (yes, it needs to be repeated), health problems (physical, emotional and mental)....

This quote sums of what I'm trying to say: "Marriage is not an easy venture. It is largely a one-time-through, do-it yourself project for the husband and wife. I repeatedly encounter the illusion today, especially among younger people, that perfect marriages happen simply if the right two people come together. This is untrue. Marriages don’t succeed automatically. Those who build happy, secure, successful marriages pay the price to do so. They work at it constantly." - Dean L. Larsen

Our engagement pic

Our wedding invitations

Wedding luncheon menu


Since 10 years is kind of a big deal, I felt we had to celebrate at the very place where we had our wedding luncheon: Chef's Table

When we told our server that we were celebrating our 10th anniversary she kind of chuckled. Then when she noticed we weren't laughing, she quickly asked, "Really? 10 years?"
She thought we looked much younger. Hey, no offense taken there. :)
Nick had salmon and I had halibut. I don't know about you but I absolutely love good seafood. Mmmmmmmmm. We ended our outing with a trip to Coldstone and headed home. Zack man was the perfect third wheel. :)

Love ya, Nick. Look forward to forever with you.


Colleen said...

Aw, you guys are so cute. And you are so right about marriage. Awesome and hard!

JessieLeigh said...

This is a great post about marriage! So spot on. Thanks. I needed to read it today.
Happy, happy 10th!!