January 11, 2009

Friendship

The other night I had the chance to go out with some childhood friends that I hadn't really seen or done anything with in quite a long time. It's crazy how fast life takes us away from friends- even really good friends. No one ever means to for their relationship to be deduced to a simple "hey!" on Facebook. But that's life I guess. I must admit when we all met up at Los Hermanos I was honestly surprised at how much fun we had. I was expecting a couple awkward silences and glances at watches mixed with a couple "remember whens" and then ending the night with a disingenuous"we should do this more often". But by the time we paid for our dinner (3 hours later) ,I think all of us were taken aback a how much our stomachs hurt from all the laughing. Yes, we were all at different places in our lives, but when we got together it was like nothing had changed. Kassy was still the free spirit, fashion diva and Amber was still the witty, history-savvy, movie quoter. It was probably one of the most enjoyable evenings I had had in a long time.

And then driving home I got to thinking about all the people I had known up until this point in my life. There are some people that I can honestly say that I am very happy they are no longer in my life. Let's be honest, we all have those people. And then of course there are those people who simply passed through for a season, but I still won't forget ever them. But then there are those rare relationships. You know the ones I am talking about. Those people that you feel like you could just talk to forever and not get bored. Those people that seem to see all sides of you (even the ugly sides) but still love you and accept you with their whole heart. The people that when you reflect about certain experiences you've shared with them, you can't help but smile. And sadly sometimes these are also people that because of a certain turn of events you can't stay in touch with: you move, they move, they get married, you transfer to a different company, they have kids, you have kids.....you know, the usual life interruptions. And even though you are very content with your life there are moments where you remember them and are saddened your relationship has become an occasional hello over the telephone or a yearly Christmas card.

I just want to say to all those wonderful people out there (you know who you are) thank you for being a part of my life. No matter where I go, how old I get, how distant we become you will always, always be in my heart and in my most cherished memories.

I think James M. Barrie says it best when he says:

"GOD GAVE US MEMORIES SO THAT WE MIGHT HAVE ROSES IN DECEMBER."

1 comment:

Jocelyn and Daniel said...

Hey Debbie! I don't think I've met you but I kinda grew up with Nick and I just found you blog. I love it! Toby is so cute!! He looks so much like you and you and Nick look so happy. I'm excited for you. I'm a stay at home mom too, after being an independent person it's a big change. I just wanted to introduce myself and ask if I can add your blog to my "follow" list so I can keep in touch. Is that okay?